“My husband earns N280k, he gives his parents N80k, he gives me N150k, but he refuses to give money to my parents” — Pregnant woman
A Nigerian woman has sparked an online debate after raising concerns about her husband’s handling of financial support between both families barely six months after their marriage.
The pregnant woman, who revealed that she is currently unemployed and expecting her first child, she said she was embarrassed that her husband consistently supported his own parents and siblings financially, but never extended the same gesture to her family.
According to a post shared on X, the woman explained that her husband earns ₦280,000 a month and allegedly gives ₦80,000 to his parents and siblings every month.
She added that he is giving her £150,000 for household needs and personal maintenance.
However, she claimed that the arrangement leaves little room for her to help her own family, especially given the rising cost of living in the country.
Sharing the story online, she wrote:
“I’m married and pregnant with my first child. I don’t work. My husband earns 280,000 a month. He gives 80,000 a month to his parents and siblings.”
He gives me 150k but I have never given money to my parents or siblings in the 6 months we have been married.
I told him we have to rotate it. At least give it to your parents this month and give it to mine next month. He said no. If I want to give to my parents, I should do it from the 150k he gives me.
Things are expensive. That 150 thousand is not even enough and he says I should take from it.”
The post quickly sparked mixed reactions from social media users, with many debating whether a husband is obligated to financially support his wife’s extended family.
Some users defended the man, arguing that the £150,000 she gave his wife was already a significant part of his income and she could choose to help her family out of it if she wanted to.
Still others believe that marriage should include balanced support for both families, especially when one partner is financially dependent due to pregnancy or unemployment.
Several commentators also pointed to the economic reality facing many Nigerian households, noting that managing rent, food, healthcare, transport and family responsibilities with a salary of ₦280,000 could already be financially challenging.
